What do I need to do in order to become willing to forgive others and myself? Willingness. We must first become willing to repair. Willing means I am inclined, prepared, ready to act gladly, eagerly compliant, accepted, borne voluntarily or ungrudgingly, without constraint or expectation of reward, agreed. Repair means to restore to a good condition, to renew by any process of making good, strengthening. This is an extraordinarily difficult step for many of us to take. We don